finding LOVE
I have always been having this doubt whether love exist or not. We often see or hear people falling in love at the first sight. “She is the one", "I will die for her", "Our love is immortal". All these sentences make sense to lots of people but not to me! The other day my very close friend asked what I think about love. I said probably I will know what it is only at my death bed.
'I love you' -- what does this actually mean? In my opinion it is the manifestation of the EGO in us and nothing else. The word ‘I ‘is what it is all about! I used to ponder about this for quite some time and started believing that there is nothing called love in this world. Whatever we do in the name of "love" is nothing but satisfying ourselves.
Our parents have started understanding and accepting our choice of finding the right person with whom we will be spending the rest of our life. Every one calls it love marriage. I would like to call it a practical marriage. When we start moving around with the opposite sex and understand his or her feeling and we find ourselves really comfortable with him/her we mostly end up proposing. Here if you notice we basically blanket the notion of practicality under the word 'love'. It is just that for all 'practical purposes the him/her will be a better life partner to me rather than the other him/her. We end up expecting something from the other person and we do things that the other person expects from us. So it just a bargaining act in which we try to find the partner where we end up losing little and gaining more. Some succeed in it while some others fail. So there is nothing actually like true love where my heart is tied with him/her or I can never do anything without that particular him/her or my entire life is doomed if I don’t end up with him/her.
Probably what we mean by love is that sensation (just like scratching, itching, etc) that we feel when the most compatible him/her nears us and also feels the same as we do. It is basically the result of some hormonal activities inside the body and there is nothing more to it!
You can probably contest here saying that mother-child relationship exhibits the true or the pure form of love. I believe that this relationship is cluttered with the highest degree of expectations. The child expects his mom to feed him, save him form any trouble, and take care of him properly, while the mom does all this expecting the child to take care of her in the future. This might not be explicitly mouthed out by both but I am sure none of us can deny that this expectation doesn’t exist. It is again a bargaining act in which probably the mother gives everything in the first phase while the child gives back later.
Having spent 24 yrs of our life all cherished relationship with mom/dad/bro/sis/wife/girl friend/boy friend is nothing but the most compatible/practical/self assuring/self serving/ top it all satisfying the self within us. I am still looking for that pure, selfless love where we don’t bargain, where we don’t expect, where we don’t act in a selfish way ……….! Hope someone finds it soon!
'I love you' -- what does this actually mean? In my opinion it is the manifestation of the EGO in us and nothing else. The word ‘I ‘is what it is all about! I used to ponder about this for quite some time and started believing that there is nothing called love in this world. Whatever we do in the name of "love" is nothing but satisfying ourselves.
Our parents have started understanding and accepting our choice of finding the right person with whom we will be spending the rest of our life. Every one calls it love marriage. I would like to call it a practical marriage. When we start moving around with the opposite sex and understand his or her feeling and we find ourselves really comfortable with him/her we mostly end up proposing. Here if you notice we basically blanket the notion of practicality under the word 'love'. It is just that for all 'practical purposes the him/her will be a better life partner to me rather than the other him/her. We end up expecting something from the other person and we do things that the other person expects from us. So it just a bargaining act in which we try to find the partner where we end up losing little and gaining more. Some succeed in it while some others fail. So there is nothing actually like true love where my heart is tied with him/her or I can never do anything without that particular him/her or my entire life is doomed if I don’t end up with him/her.
Probably what we mean by love is that sensation (just like scratching, itching, etc) that we feel when the most compatible him/her nears us and also feels the same as we do. It is basically the result of some hormonal activities inside the body and there is nothing more to it!
You can probably contest here saying that mother-child relationship exhibits the true or the pure form of love. I believe that this relationship is cluttered with the highest degree of expectations. The child expects his mom to feed him, save him form any trouble, and take care of him properly, while the mom does all this expecting the child to take care of her in the future. This might not be explicitly mouthed out by both but I am sure none of us can deny that this expectation doesn’t exist. It is again a bargaining act in which probably the mother gives everything in the first phase while the child gives back later.
Having spent 24 yrs of our life all cherished relationship with mom/dad/bro/sis/wife/girl friend/boy friend is nothing but the most compatible/practical/self assuring/self serving/ top it all satisfying the self within us. I am still looking for that pure, selfless love where we don’t bargain, where we don’t expect, where we don’t act in a selfish way ……….! Hope someone finds it soon!
posted by Prem@Pondy at 12:44 AM
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